A Lifetime In 4 Days.

Let me catch you up. My mother died on Thursday, December 1st around 6:30pm. I was alone in my house with 3 candles lit, eating a salad dinner. She was on her way to a meeting in Bowdoinham, she got a little confused about where she was going and parked across the street in a group home's parking lot, spoke to 2 attendees who were outside to get permission to park there and they last saw her milling around her white Volvo. The state trooper Jonathan Leach fills us in from this point forward.

She crossed the street and had maybe 10 yards to walk to the mouth of the driveway, she was walking with traffic, wearing dark clothing on an unlit rural road with barely a shoulder. There were shrubs/hedges along the road which probably forced her to walk further over than she would have been naturally inclined to do. The pick-up truck was coming from behind a hill, another car was turning from the mouth of a driveway and the headlights were in Lisa Green's eyes. She did not see Becky there was an impact on the front passenger side of her truck and stopped immediately. She was not speeding and she was 3 driveways from her home. She got out of the vehicle, hollered out, heard nothing and found my mother. She had some EMT training and checked her pulse, she had one. She flagged down the next cars coming through.

Now our dear friend, and teacher Peggy Muir fills us in. She was also going to the meeting and was with my mother as she transitioned. She held Becky's hand. She told her not to leave us and that we loved her, over and over again. She was not in pain, she was glazed and her eyes were open and staring upwards. Peggy held her hand and told her that we loved her. She believes she knew this when she died.

The Times Record reported that they closed the road and cleared a place for a life flight helicopter to land. There was a helicopter circling, but never used it, which leads me to believe that she died at the scene of the accident, though she was pronounced dead at the hospital in Brunswick.

Becky's best friend Kathleen came to the scene as the ambulances were leaving. She wanted to be with Becky, but went to get Ed. She took Ed to the hospital where he saw her for quite a while. She was cold and he said he could not warm her, though he tried. Kathleen cared for him all night and stayed at the house until I arrived at noon the next day.

The house has been open and there have been a constant stream of people and food. We need vegetables and fruit, sweets and local organic meats. Edward loves pasta. Becky loved the farmer's market, so shop there if you're making meal. She left a vase full of daylilies and a house full of her. Everywhere you look she has decorated and filled and it's beautiful and comforting. We are SURROUNDED by friends and family and care and love and support and that helps tremendously.

There is more to say, but not today; I'll see you tomorrow. Forward my blog to anyone you think could benefit from reading it. This is an open mourning process. The memorial service will be in 2 weekends on the 17th or 18th in Brunswick. Thank you all for you blessings.